When I read my e-mail and Facebook posts everyday, I'm thankful to read so many comments from people saying how much they appreciate what I do to help others. Those kinds of thanks always bring a big smile to my face. But on many days, as people share with me some of the struggles they have in their lives, a lot of those problems have to do with the relationships with their spouses or partners. Now those kind of comments make me sad! But I wonder, if your own relationship needs improvement, are you doing all you can to make it better? There are things you can do, ya' know. For instance...
Make it a point everyday to do something a little special for your significant other.
Make it a point everyday to do something a little special for your significant other. Surprise him or her some mornings by bringing their morning coffee to bed and have a nice talk together before beginning your days. And for when they come to the kitchen for breakfast, make an effort to keep a favorite snack on hand for them. (Choose a healthy one!) As you both head off to work, how's about sneaking a little love note into a brief case, a purse or leaving it on top of a dresser where it can be found later in the day?
Try to do a little something unexpected once a month for your partner. Have a special dinner waiting for when they come home from work. Or surprise him or her by offering to take them out for dinner and the treat, (of course), is on you. In this world of texting and e-mails, how's about surprising your partner every now and then with an actual handwritten card that arrives in the U.S. Mail. (The Post Office does still deliver mail, you know! LOL.)
Then there are those special occasions. If your partner has been working hard to lose weight and you can see the results, treat them to a special salad you made yourself and tell your partner how proud you are of them. (You'll be amazed at how much difference it can make in their continuing the work to lose weight.) If your partner has a significant accomplishment at work or has done something really special for you or someone else, show them how proud you are of them then, too. Brag about them to family or friends and make sure your partner is there to hear you singing their praises. (It'll make you a hero in their eyes.)
Don't just wait for the bad times to show your partner how much you care.
Don't just wait for the bad times to show your partner how much you love and care for them. Show how much you care and how much you appreciate them during the good times, too. In fact, research has shown that spouses who celebrate and appreciate each other during the good times have an easier time together working through the more challenging times of their lives.
By the way, have I told you how much lately I appreciate YOU? Hey, I'm only human myself and, like everybody else, I have those rough spots in my life, too. But I'm telling you, hearing how much you love and appreciate the things I do only makes me love and appreciate YOU even more. Wish I were there to do something special for you today!